ARE YOU A MISOGYNIST?
I’m not a misogynist. I’m a man-ist.
WHO’S CALLING YOU A MISOGYNIST?
For the most part, people on social media. Nobody says anything to my face anymore. My conversations and Facebook statuses give people the impression that I’m a misogynist. What have I been saying?
Black men don’t cheat.
Ladies, you know how to GET a man but how do/would you keep a man?
Monogamy isn’t natural. It’s in a man’s nature to spread his seed.
God gave men the ability to rapidly reproduce. The world’s female to male ratio is 4 to 1. God doesn’t make mistakes.
As a man, I have to work for you to be attracted to me. I have to have something about me that draws you.
I’ve reposted articles, statuses, and videos that gave, what I felt is, an honest male perspective and explained differences between the minds of men and women. More often than not, I’d receive 1 of 3 replies from women:
- Who hurt you?
- Women can ___________ too.
- Are you sure you’re not gay?
None of these bothered me. One, everybody has been hurt by somebody. Men hold onto their hurt longer than women. Two, I’m not gay. Three, I believe that women can do anything that they want, however, there are fundamental differences between the sexes.
When I discuss male-female interactions, I accept that men have flaws and we act in ways that hurt women. The labels come when I start telling women how their actions negatively impact men. Let’s just say that replies are rarely, “Hmm. I see your point.” My logic combined with my verbal abilities tend to provoke the emotions of many women and there is when I get the 3 replies.
DO YOU HATE WOMEN?
Not at all. I love women. Some of my favorite people are women. My mother is a woman. I’m a very objective person and have difficulties dealing with emotions. That’s where the clash happens.
WHY DO YOU PISS PEOPLE OFF?
Rarely is my goal to actually upset someone. People who know me understand that I’m harmless and mean no malicious intent. It just so happens that my views differ from societal norms and I challenge people to think outside of the norm. I don’t always do it to change people’s minds. I do it to learn for myself…if you can beat my logic of course.
WHERE DOES YOUR PERSPECTIVE COME FROM?
My perspective comes from life experiences, on the inside and the outside. I’ve been actively dating since I was 17. I’ve been played, used, and mentally abused. And again, who hasn’t? I’ve taken those experiences and learned to look for warning signs and patterns. Also, from 21-26 I was single (I had “relationships” but they weren’t going far and we knew it). During that period, I was able to look at dating from the outside. I was able to look at relationships objectively because, frankly, they weren’t my relationships. I still dated but nothing serious. I learned from that as well.
SIMPLY, WHAT IS YOUR PERSPECTIVE?
- Monogamy isn’t natural but it’s not impossible. Infidelity has been apart of the world since the beginning of time. It’s not going anywhere and I think it’s pointless to fight it AND get upset about it.
- Women want double standards when it’s convenient. Men act like the double standards are laws.
- The communication between men and women needs to improve. People talk and people listen but the understanding is missing.
- Couples should never take monogamy for granted. They should have an honest discussion in the beginning of the relationship about their sex drives AND their expectations of one another.